Valentine’s Day, either you love it or you hate it.  Society puts so much pressure on people to have an amazing Valentine’s Day and that can be extremely stressful and unnecessary.  Here are some ways to survive another Valentine’s Day, whether you are single, or in a relationship.

For those who are single:

Ignore society’s pressure:

Society makes a big deal of Valentine’s Day. Society also makes a big deal of how the day should unfold.  Being single on this day can be uncomfortable.  It is time to change the norms for this day.

Indulge in self-care:

Instead of showering someone else with love, shower yourself! Take care of yourself by doing some of your favourite self care activities such as taking a bath with a fancy bath bomb, doing some yoga, meditating, or going for a workout. Put yourself first and pamper yourself.

Treat yourself:

Order from your favourite restaurant to treat yourself. Alternatively, you could watch your favourite movie. Buy yourself some chocolates and flowers.

Spend the day with friends and family:

Celebrating love does not have to be about romantic love.  It can be about love between best friends or family.  Plan an outing with people you enjoy being around and have fun.

Get some support if needed:

If the day is getting you down do not wait to reach out for help. Text or call a trusted friend. Seek the help of a therapist or doctor. Check out the support available.

If you are in a relationship:

Ignore society’s pressure:

Do not do what society expects of you just because you are in a relationship.  Do what is right for the two of you.


Talk about how you want to spend the day – or if you want to celebrate Valentine’s Day.   Do not assume you know what your partner wants.  Talk it out.

Plan Valentine’s Day in advance:

Decide ahead of time what you want to do and book your reservations, buy the tickets, or order the flowers.  Do not be left out because you left it to the last minute.

Avoid Comparison:

Do not compare the two of you to another couple because everyone is different, every couple is different.  What is best for your situation might not be the same as your friends.  Focus on what is best for you not what the neighbours are doing.

Remember the meaning of the holiday:

Valentine’s Day is about the celebration of love.  Avoid the commercial element of it and appreciate the love that you have, not the material gifts.